"I'm not here to teach you anything new, I'm here to remind you of things."
It's a quote that was spoken years ago by a pastor Evan and I studied underneath in ministry school. He was speaking in the context of his job title as lead pastor. It is one of those sentences for Evan whose words made residence in his soul and come to mind in the context spoken and when directed by the Holy Spirit out of context. He reminded me of those internal words this morning, with the background music of Auburn scoring another touch down against Ole Miss, alongside the last bite of rosemary apple pie french toast. Words taken in with black coffee and lingered on just the same.
In between lazy sips and casual conversation put on pause every now and then so a fall football Saturday could have way cozy and easy in our home, I asked him what about marriage feels new in revelation or season to him.
Evan is steady. A well whose levels fluctuate, but is undoubtedly the most dependable you will ever tap from in it's source. That quote from years ago came out almost immediately. "I'm not here to teach you anything new, I'm here to remind you things." He went on to talk about the natural rhythm that plays itself out like a good, satisfied from a full meal type exhale, when we are able to just intermingle our lives together. The ease of a Saturday morning translated into a marriage story.
Maybe it is the actual essence of what it means to be one, maybe it is a gift given by time's hand. Regardless, there is a special type of enjoying one another that is only experienced when each gives room to let the other breathe in their element, but still intentional to keep our breaths in sync as one. For us, this means Saturday mornings where football and french toast fills our home. It means no nagging for an extra hand in the kitchen so he can unwind in a way that brings him rest, but it also means no checking out in front of a TV, and a hand in wrangling our two year old so I can enjoy that process of waking up, pressing fresh coffee, and filling up on the smell of cinnamon and nutmeg before I have to change a diaper (or 3). It is an ebb and flow that is sourced in service and carried out in covenant care for one another.
Simple reminders of service and love, a "nothing new, just a reminder," type of morning. A Saturday flow that can become a week day lifestyle when we recenter back on the call to deplete ourselves of self-centeredness, while also accepting the care and attention of our spouse. But it has to be two-fold in this measure.
Step one? Serve. Serve your spouse the best you know how. Don't be scared to be the better spouse. I mean it. The Spirit of God is contagious and service always lends itself to love in thought or action when under the context of covenant. And in case you're not sure what that means practically, let him do something he loves this Saturday afternoon, no time limit, no honey-do's. Oh, and making him a big batch of hot french toast and steamy coffee never hurt either.
Rosemary Apple Pie French Toast
Best served with a big helping of brown butter apples and a big screen of Saturday, SEC football.
- 1 1/2 tbsp salted butter
- 5 slices of stale bread (we use rosemary sourdough from whole foods)
- 2 eggs
- 1 tbsp milk (we use vanilla soy)
- 1/8 tsp vanilla
- 1 tsp cinnamon
- 1/2 tsp nutmeg
- 1 tsp bee pollen
- honey (for drizzling)
- powdered sugar (for powdering)
(brown butter apples)
- 2 organic Gala apples
- 1 tbsp butter
- 1-2 tbsp brown sugar
- mix eggs, milk, vanilla, cinnamon, nutmeg, and bee pollen in mixing bowl
- dip bread in above mixture until soaked through
- heat 1 tbsp butter in cast iron skillet (any skillet surface will work, but I'm from the south so cast iron everything am I right?) on medium low heat until melted
- drop in as many pieces of bread that will fit
- flip once the bread has a deep, golden, brown crust
- add in extra 1/2 tbsp butter as needed with remaining pieces of bread
- plate, top with brown butter apples (see below), sprinkle with powdered sugar, and drizzle with honey
(brown butter apples)
- cut two gala apples into bite sized bits
- heat butter in skillet on medium low heat until a rich golden brown, stir butter while melting
- once color is reached, drop in apples and cook for 4-5 minutes
- turn off heat and sprinkle apples with 1-2 tbsp brown sugar, stir, and let sit